Why we home-educate our daughters…
I home-school my children not to prepare them for tests but to prepare them for life.
– Tamara L. Chilver
Our two little girls Atiya and Caira will be 7 in December. They are identical twins. 🙂
Up until summer holiday this year they went to a very little school in North Wales, but since September we decided to home-educate them.
If you have children of your own, you would know that the full time formal education starts at a very early age. Between 4 and 5. That’s when these new little people have to be woken up early mornings and taken away from the security of home, their mums and dads. Usually rushed out of the house, the have to stay away for most of the day, most of the week, most of the year. And then, when they come back, too tired quiet often even to play, they still have to do their home work.
“Children need what we rarely give them in school –
time for “Messing About”.”
– John Holt
I remember a teacher telling me once, when I said that I don’t get much of my babies at all, that I have though weekends and holidays. But is this really what family relationship is about, family unity? Caring and passing on values? Positively influencing your child? Just weekends and holidays…?
Well, not for me…
This time, right at the beginning in every human’s life, is so important, so crucial. It is the time when our personalities, our beliefs for the future are shaped. That’s the time when we are mostly receptive to what we are told as right or wrong.
From the day one I felt overwhelming happiness about these two little beings inside me. I also felt this extremely clear awareness of the responsibility I have as a mother. And I know my husband felt the same.
“Education begins at home and I applaud the parents who recognise that they
– not someone else – must take responsibility to assure that their children are well educated.”
– Ernest Istook
So why we home-educate our daughters…
We want to celebrate their individuality every day and pass on to them our own values, views about the world, our beliefs. And teach them what is really important in life and how to think independently.
We had the idea of home-educating for a long time, but I guess we felt somehow not confident enough to just do it. Also a big part in it played the worry, that the girls might not get enough social interaction with other children. And the pressure – all that we have been told as normal and what we should be doing.
We didn’t know at first that only in the UK, there is nearly 50 thousand home-educated children. The number increased by 65% in the last six years. And here in North Wales the count of members of a Facebook home-education public group is today 230.
That helped, it wasn’t just us…
So as we got more fed up with missing out on each other. Missing out on this so incredibly precious moments, of watching them grow every day and seeing them being amazing. On top of it, the stress in the mornings, tummy aches and constantly recurring colds, politics and just different ideas and values about the world and life than ours, we made the move and decided to try.
“It’s not our job to toughen our children up to face
a cruel and heartless world. It’s our job to raise children
who will make the world a little less cruel and heartless.”
And as we researched and got in touch with some other already home-educating parents, we happily realised that the girls can meet up with other children nearly every day. And all home educating parents build groups and communities and greatly support each other.
We believe that everyone has the power to do amazing things in life, but most of us never get the opportunity to even try and achieve our true potential.
“Education is not the learning of facts,
but the training of the mind to think.”
– Albert Einstein
Schools teach facts and what to think versus how to think.
They teach how to fit in, be mediocre, do what every one else is doing and follow the status quo. They teach to compete, be better and superior, which bring constant comparison to other children. It also builds self-consciousness and the feeling of not being enough or worthy.
But they don’t teach:
- how to simply live and be happy,
- how to love, feel compassion and empathy,
- how to practice gratitude and forgiveness,
- how to be good at relationships, communicate better, listen better,
- how to be better parent,
- how to eat well and treat the body right and understand what it does to our health and how it can increase our lifespan,
- how to set and pursue the right types of goals,
- how to be self-empowered and live a balanced fulfilled life,
- how to enhance our intuition to be able to make better decisions,
- how to meditate and understand the power it has on our mind and body,
- how to learn self-confidence and positive self-esteem,
- how to be self-reliant,
- how to be ones self,
- how to chase your dreams,
- how to find passion and purpose and live a meaningful life,
- how to create great things and give back to the world,
- how to gain entrepreneurship skills,
- how to be extraordinary and live a truly extraordinary life.
Beside all this, there is so much pressure of having to reach certain grades, that there is not much focus on actual learning. There is no understanding, that every one is different and learns different things at a different pace.
“Childhood is not a race to see how quickly a child can read, write, and count. Childhood is a small window of time to learn and develop at the pace which is right for each individual child.”
– Magda Gerber
We wish to help our daughters to work on growing their potential and think for them selves, because that will bring them security, happiness and success.
We want for them to have time to explore their interests and get better at what they truly enjoy.
Because learning should be fun.
“Timetables! We act as if children were railroad trains running on a schedule…
But children are not railroad trains. They don’t learn at an even rate. They learn in spurts,
and the more interested they are in what they are learning, the faster these spurts are likely to be.”
– John Holt (How Children Learn)
I understand different circumstances and beliefs. And I understand how privileged we are here in the western world to have at all free education, and how much, many children and parents around the world would give, to have just that.
But I also think that our traditional education system is way out of date and needs to be clearly transformed and adjusted to our world that is changing at unbelievable speed.
I do know it is not for everyone. My husband and I are extremely fortunate to run our online business from home and be there, with and for the girls all the time. Of course we had to make some adjustments to the way and time that we work, structure and plan our days differently and put in effort to make it function. But already now, although we just kind of started, the girls are so much happier and balanced. Full of good positive energy, getting on with their little projects that reflect their individual interests and focus on what they truly enjoy. Feeding their beautiful curiosity, which leads to passion and purpose.
Day by day they are becoming more independent and helpful. They understand better the values of family and unity. Respect, support and love for the nature. Surrounded by love and care, they are growing into extraordinary people that want to make the world a better place for all.
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With best wishes,
To your happiness, well-being and success,
Beata was born and grew up in Poland. At the age of 21 she moved to Germany and then eight years later to the UK. She is a passionate entrepreneur driven by burning desire to raise awareness about what we are truly capable of as humans and together with like-minded people, create a better sustainable world for the future generations. She is a mother to two beautiful girls, identical twins Atiya and Caira and wife to Sebastian. She is a Holistic Therapist and Kundalini Yoga practitioner. She is intensively learning and implementing healthy nutrition and natural healing in her family life with great success. She loves travelling and exploring new cultures and meeting new people, fascinated by the diversity and beauty in the world. She thrives from her digital lifestyle and earning money online through affiliate marketing and is extremely dedicated to inspire others to make their dream come true too.